Volume 2

The Elevated Edition

The EQ Issue

Many experts now believe that a person’s emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) may be more important than their IQ and is certainly a better predictor of success, quality of relationships, and overall happiness.

90%

Of top performers have a high EQ

58%

EQ is responsible for 58% of your job performance

$29,000

People with a high EQ make $29,000 more annually than those with low EQs

Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.

— Epictetus

Things are going to get a little hippy today. But we wouldn’t be jumping on the woo train unless we knew these things work.

In a world where self-absorption has become the norm, it’s becoming increasingly rare to focus beyond our pursuit for life, liberty and the all-encompassing pursuit of happiness. Yet, psychologists and wellness practitioners argue that taking a break to pursue our every knee-jerk want and need is in our best interest.

The research on emotional intelligence(EQ) has grown in recent decades.

Oxford Dictionary describes emotional intelligence as, “The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.”

Emotional intelligence is our ability to recognize emotions in ourselves and others, to understand their effect, and to use that knowledge to guide our thoughts and behaviors.

The key here being regulation of emotions, not dismissal of emotions. It’s possible to feel an emotion and simultaneously make a conscious decision to act in opposition to that emotion for the betterment of your team, family, friends or group in general.

But why harness such a skill? Because EQ and the ability to consciously regulate our emotions, as well as the emotions of those around us, is a superpower. Not to mention one of the top indicators of economical success and general life happiness.

I come from a very loving and secure family. But looking back, one area we lacked desperately was emotional intelligence. Our family unit never really talked about things. As soon as something felt uncomfortable and felt any sense of push back, the conversation would turn silent and slowly fizzle out and die. It was never pursued too deeply. While we did talk about our feelings, it never got more than skin deep.

For being a family from the 90’s and 00’s, I don’t think we were the exception but more the norm.

Instead, I processed my emotions through my writing. Journals are where I would go to iron out the tangles of my emotions. It’s where I grieved, thought my way through dilemmas, felt the full intensity of my celebrations and expressed my anger without fear of repercussion. While I just simply saw them as a place to vent, I didn’t realize then that I was forming a healthy habit towards strengthening my emotional intelligence.

In the years since, me and my emotions have gone on a wild ride. There were  periods where I ignored them completely and other times I let them control my entire existence — neither of which I can admit to being a healthy time in my life.

Honestly, I can’t remember my first experience with EQ. I think it ultimately just came as a result of realizing my emotions are guides to interacting with this world, not dictators. A conclusion I only came to after interacting in my adult years with people of all thoughts, backgrounds, beliefs and identities. We all share common goals but its our emotions that play a big role in how we pursue those goals and who we help or hinder in its pursuit.

For this volume of The Elevated Edition, there are a few points I really want to drive home:

  • Point #1: Practicing EQ and tapping into your emotions isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength and wisdom
  • Point #2: The benefits of a high EQ extend to your business
  • Point #3:  EQ does not correlate to IQ
  • Point #4: Anyone can do it

 

Thanks to technology, it’s possible to quickly purchase just about anything, but EQ isn’t one of these things. It’s a lifelong practice that takes time and hardwork. It’s not a quick win and the obvious immediate rewards aren’t always tangible. It’s not theoretical; it’s something you have to be willing to apply. You will work on it, fail it and improve it for the rest of your life. But in the end the wisdom gained will set you up for success.

EQ INTRO: Learn the what’s, why’s and how’s of emotional intelligence >>>

PUT EQ TO PRACTICE: Emotional intelligence is a gateway to a balanced life & something you can learn >>>
12 TRAITS: Harvard researcher says the most emotionally intelligent people have these 12 traits. Which do you have? >>>

WATCH: Daniel Goleman is THE authority on Emotional Intelligence for decades now.

READ: The negative effects of a punishment focused work environment and how it hinders innovation >>>
THE EQ GUIDE TO DISAGREEING WITH YOUR BOSS: Hint — know when to cut your losses >>>
LET NATURE BE THY MEDICINE: A grassroots movement of physicians are prescribing time outdoors as the best possible cure for a growing list of ailments >>>

The 5 Components of Emotional Intelligence

reference: Goleman, D. (1995), Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can MAtter More Than IQ

Tried & Tested Resources

These are my personal favorite resources, all of which I put my stamp approval on. You may notice that there’s more than one writing tool and that’s because writing works. Taking the time to sit and reflect is really the only way to really process through your emotions. 

THE SELF-CARE PLANNER: We’re Simple Self and we create tools to help you live a balanced life. We know that when you focus on your health and happiness, you’re setting yourself up to succeed >>>
INSIGHT TIMER: #1 free app for sleep, anxiety and stress. Guided meditations to walk you through your inner environment. >>>
5 MINUTE JOURNAL: There’s a reason you may keep seeing this journal everywhere. >>>

Peace Pilgrim

When you make people angry, they act in accordance with their baser instincts, often violently and irrationally. When you inspire people, they act in accordance with their higher instincts, sensibly and rationally. Also, anger is transient, whereas inspiration sometimes has a lifelong effect.

Practicing Emotional Intelligence With Pop-Up Sound Bath

"It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both."

— David Caruso

Further Reading

Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

Daniel Goleman’s brilliant report from the frontiers of psychology and neuroscience offers startling new insight into our “two minds”—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny.

The Junto Emotion Wheel

A guide to help you label your feelings and emotions when you're not quite sure how to express it.

55 Inspiring Quotes That Show the Power of Emotional Intelligence

55 quotes to remind us of the power and importance of emotional intelligence and why we should focus on developing it further.

The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage

Psychologist Susan David shares how the way we deal with our emotions shapes everything that matters. She challenges a culture that prizes positivity over emotional truth and discusses the powerful strategies of emotional agility.

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